We keep it simple. My husband and I will come to your motel room.

We don't want to meet for drinks or dine out with you.
We have a few motels in our hometown area that will server us well for what we are seeking.
I will give you the names and phone numbers. We'll set up a day or evening time and date.
You check in, text me the room number and I'll come knocking at your door.

My husband and I are into this together. Don't ask me to meet you alone.
If you are camera shy, best to select another to party with.